By Maya Scruggs // Contributing Writer | Contributions by Brinley Hineman // Assistant News Editor
During MTSU’s LGBT+ College Conference, Joni Frater and Esther Latisque spoke to students about healthy relationships at their Loving Right seminar. Prior to their notable work in the relationship field, Frater was a dentist who focused her work on helping patients conquer their fear of visiting the dentist; Latisque is an art gallery owner turned educator who fights for women and gay rights.
After meeting, the two published a book entitled Love Her Right: The Married Man’s Guide to Lesbian Secrets for Great Sex. Following its publication, the co-authors were interviewed by several radio stations. “During the radio station interview, two truckers in Massachusetts, Bubba and Knucklehead, interviewed us and said, ‘If I [had] read your book when I was younger, I could’ve saved my first marriage,’ and we went, ‘wow, we need to talk to younger people,’” Frater said.
Frater and Lastique travel to many college campuses across the country to discuss sex and healthy relationships and often do one of two programs focusing on separate topics or a blended version of both. The main focus of their workshops is on relationships, how to be a better partner and how to determine a healthy relationship from an unhealthy one.
According to Frater and Lastique, the four main pillars of healthy relationships are honesty, respect, equality and responsibility.
They both discussed the warning sign of abuse within a relationship, domestic violence and sexual assault on college campuses.
“Less than 5 percent of sexual assaults are reported on a college campus,” Lastique said. “Domestic violence is probably that percentage or maybe even less.”
Some of the other topics that were covered were “sexploration,” male anatomy 101, female anatomy 101, condoms, STDs and more.
“80 percent of women don’t climax from penetration, and intercourse is not what always works for us,” Frater said.
“I didn’t know that you’re supposed to have an orgasm every 24 hours to 46 hours,” added MTSU student Brisja Amos. “I think that this program was so informational overall.”
Each year there are nearly 20 million new sexually transmitted infections that occur in the U.S.
“75 percent of college students will catch an STD in their lifetime,” Lastique said. “It’s important to get tested for STIs every 6 months or when you change partners.”